Childfree & Unmarried: 10 Significant life events I celebrate as a woman

I wanted to share 10 significant life achievements/moments I celebrate as a woman outside of having children or getting married:

1. I finished my 7-year academic journey to becoming a licensed Counseling Psychologist (I was one out of 2 Black women and the youngest to graduate from my cohort) with $0 savings, no family support system, and having to rely on random jobs (not knowing whether I can afford my rent).

2. Starting my online therapy and relationship coaching business for women of colour and making a lasting impact on their lives through my paid and free services.

3. Travelling to 17 countries and 42 places (mostly solo!)

4. Overcoming childhood abuse and abusive relationships as an adult through 4 years of intensive therapy (Yes, a good therapist goes to therapy too!).

5. To stop using skin-bleaching products around 6 years ago and stop avoiding being in the sun (my mother normalised skin bleaching from a young age and constantly told me that my natural skin tone was disgusting)

6. Stop using relaxer products and shave my hair off - because why spend a small fortune and large mental capacity on something that shouldn't control my life?!

7. To go no contact from my narcissistic mother and to go against deeply instilled cultural norms as a 2nd generation migrant of Ghanaian descent (it was one of the best decisions for me)

8. To decide on taking a massive leap of faith by selling all my stuff, permanently moving to the Dominican Repulic, and hop around the islands (I'm due to leave in September!!).

9. To end a 4 year codependent and abusive relationship because I knew I deserved better.

10. Paving the way for other young women of colour who are passionate about becoming qualified psychologists through mentorship, providing workshops, and supervision.

You can hear more about my story on my youtube channel: The HARSH reality of dating as a dark skin Black woman